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Getting Down to Business

Water Closet sign

The Water Closet

 

Okay, here goes. I love bathrooms in Europe. There, it’s out there. I’ve said it.

This, I am thinking, will be a difficult subject to blog about.

The thing is, most bathrooms in Sweden (and in the other parts of Europe I have been in) offer you your own little room where you can get your business done in complete privacy. There’s often a tiny little sink and a commode, and all the supplies you need. It’s quite civilized. (Although it must be said that charging nearly a dollar for the privilege in a public place such as a mall or a bus station seems a little over-priced.)

These unisex, private little Swedish bathrooms also exist in the workplace. At my current job in Stockholm, for example, there are four of them plus a fifth larger one that houses handicap-accessible amenities.

For comparison purposes—in case you’re thinking, what’s the big deal?—most companies in the US offer mens’ and womens’ restrooms that consist of a large room with a varying amount of stalls.

The Swedish version offers a really nice level of privacy. It’s one thing to be out in public and sharing a large public bathroom but when you’re at work, there are certain things you don’t want to share with your co-workers.

At my previous work in San Francisco, the stall doors were just long enough so that it was difficult to tell if the stall was occupied or not (but they didn’t reach the floor). The lock gave no indication from the outside whether someone was in there. So people could get into uncomfortable little scenarios where they rattled a stall door lock to see if it was occupied, it would be, and then they would come face to face a few minutes later with their boss. Or their boss’ boss…Oops, didn’t mean to disturb you.

And that bathroom was quiet. I mean, dead quiet! They needed to rig up some sort of artificial, ambient noise or something. Everyone noticed it. You could hear a cotton ball drop on the floor, for goodness’ sake.

Once a co-worker commented to me that the bathroom stalls were so narrow that the bathroom felt like a “veal farm.” I was never able to get that out of my mind again.

And let’s face it, there are certain things you don’t want to find out about your co-workers, such as whether they use soap to wash their hands. (Maybe you’re thinking that you do want that information. Not me. Ignorance is bliss. I prefer to assume my co-workers are making good choices.)

These Swedish bathrooms are extra nice to have in the workplace. Privacy is maintained and there’s no danger of  TMI -“too much information.”

bathroom interior

What's not to love?

Commuter Bus Etiquette

Boarding the bus

Boarding the commuter bus...

 

A few days ago, I had a whispered conversation with my future Swedish boss on my cell phone. The reason I had to whisper was because I was on the commuter bus, on my way to work in San Francisco.

I was hunched over, trying to shield the sound of my voice while we discussed an additional document the union needs in order to approve my work visa. (See my recent post.)

It got me thinking about the etiquette of riding the commuter bus here in the Bay Area. I will be using public transportation to commute from Uppsala to Stockholm in the near future and I wonder if there are also some unwritten rules there.

The San Francisco commuter bus is a whole different animal from a regular city bus. Commuter buses here are typically “coaches” rather than buses which means they’re larger, with upholstered seats, and big windows.

I currently work for a massive law firm in San Francisco’s Financial District. I have been a contract worker here for about eight months. Before that, I worked for another law firm for four months. One of the reasons I am moving to Sweden is that I have not been able to find a permanent job here for more than one year.

Bus approaching bus stop

Waiting for the bus...

 

My commute takes around one and a half hours each morning and evening. Three hours is a large chunk of the day so it’s good to know the rules you’re supposed to follow during that time. There’s no manual that comes with being a commuter bus rider, one must simply watch and learn. Here’s what I have observed:

  • The bus should be boarded in order of arrival at the bus stop. Usually there’s a queue.
  • It’s tricky to figure out where the front and back of the queue is—the line seems to go in different directions depending on which stop you’re waiting at.
  • Don’t use your cell phone unless it’s an emergency. This being 2011, of course people do talk on their phones, but usually they get a lot of nasty looks and they soon hang up. (It’s the last bastion of etiquette—a kind of rolling vehicle of good manners.)
  • Don’t chat up the person next to you. Most people do work on their laptops or they nap. (I study Swedish.)
  • Be extra kind to the bus driver. Greet him/her when you board and then thank him/her when you exit the bus.
  • At least 90% of the time, women sit with women. Men sit with men. Welcome back to 3rd grade.
  • Having a Translink card (a prepaid card that adds value to itself at designated intervals) speeds the payment process up. The bad news: So long anonymity! It is easy to track exactly where a person goes every day because of the card.

What is your commute like? Are you in Sweden or another country?

Empty desk

Don't look for me at my desk...I'm running for the bus!