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You’re Celebrating on the Wrong Day!—and other things you didn’t know about Christmas in Sweden

It’s the night before Christmas, and all through the mouse, not a beach chair is stirring, not even a louse.

Wait, what!?!

Celebrating Christmas abroad can make you feel like things are, well, a little topsy-turvy.

You may have read about the way people celebrate in the country you’re living in, or you might be going into the day free of any knowledge or misconceptions. Regardless of which category you fall under, there will come a point in the day when you look around you and think to yourself:

Now what exactly is going on here?

Last week, I was invited to be on a radio show with two Swedish comedians to talk about the differences between American and Swedish Christmas traditions as I perceived them. I had some thoughts at that time, but now that I’ve actually experienced my first Christmas in Sweden, I’m ready to tell it like it is.

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When spontaneity culture meets scheduling culture

The part of Swedish culture that I had the hardest time getting used to was definitely the Swedish love for planning ahead, especially when it comes to social events.

Among my friends in the United States, if you want to make plans for the weekend, you can start discussing it on Wednesday. Any earlier than that and you’re kind of pushing it. It’s definitely not a problem to call around on Saturday morning to see what people feel like doing later that evening.

Not so much in Sweden.

Plans for the weekend (at least among my friends) are almost always made in advance, and if you want to throw a party, you need to give all your friends at least two weeks’ notice. Of course, there are a few exceptions to this, but they are far outnumbered by the people with their day calendars and a pencil within reach and ready for action.

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Very Superstitious!

I was one of those kids who believed in Santa Claus for too long. I read a lot of fantasy and Sci-Fi growing up, too, so I had certain (socially awkward) beliefs about the presence of magic in our everyday lives. Then there was the part where I would pray to certain saints for help depending on what they were in charge of in the Catholic Church. St. Anthony, the patron saint of lost things, was a particular favorite of a forgetful, 14-year-old me.

As time went on, however, the importance of those superstitions faded. I still harbor some residual faith in magical beings and say an “Our Father” every time I take off or land in a plane, but that’s about it.

It was only when I moved to Austria that superstitions became a source of interest again—and this time, because the superstitions seemed so strange. Then, of course, I had to check the Austrian superstitions against the Swedish ones, and there were more than a few similarities.

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A time for reflection, solemnity, celebration, and… municipal trucks?

It was a beautiful afternoon in Sweden. The sun was shining, and the streets were crowded with pedestrians. My sister and I were walking down Stora Södergatan in Lund, a very Main Street kind of area, when we heard screams suddenly echoing from the cobblestone streets.

Accompanied by the honking of horns and a pumping techno beat.

And in the latest episode of What on Earth is going on here?, I recognized my friends’ descriptions of graduation ceremonies in Sweden. So this is what you meant when you said you drive around and party in trucks. And all this time I figured that it was some sort of metaphor that had been lost in translation…

Giant trucks rolling through the center of medieval Lund, loaded heavy with screaming, jumping kids, all wearing funny hats.

This is not your average day in Lund. Photos: Kate Wiseman.

Not to mention that, as I think you can see in the photos above, there were trees on board. Pretty big trees. Uhhh… why?

When I was home in the United States last month for my sister’s college graduation (university, for those non-American readers), people here wanted to know whether she would be wearing one of those black hats and throwing it into the air. (Thank you, Hollywood, and yes.)

My friends and English students seemed totally fascinated by that tradition and a little jealous. Now that I’ve gotten a little taste of the graduation madness in Sweden, I have to say… do you have any idea how much we would love this sort of thing in the US? Costumes! Flags! LOUD NOISES!

The row of trucks (and one monster tractor) drove through town for about five hours or so, playing music on full blast, screaming and cheering, and dancing around. Lund’s not an especially large town, so they drove through the same streets, over and over again, not losing any of their enthusiasm as time went on. I heard echoing shouts and party music from my apartment late into the night and laughed. What a hilarious day.

Partying, partying, YEAH! Photos: Kate Wiseman.

But then it happened again the next day…

And the day after that I saw more students parading through Malmö on foot with whistles and horns…

And always with the hats! The sailor hats are following me!

It seems as though this will be going on for a week or so, as each school in town does their own parade and monster truck mania.

The students are graduating from gymnasium, which doesn’t translate very well to the American educational system, but is sort of like a college prep school or a secondary education that you do before choosing what you want to study as a major or a specialization. The people you see in the photos are about 18/19 years old. Next year, the majority of them will be working, traveling, and studying a little on the side while they get some life experience and try to decide what they want to study at the university. It seems like a good system.

This is probably one of the most hilarious and un-Swedish-ly excessive celebrations I’ve seen yet. The graduates looked like they were having the time of their lives… so awesome!

Grattis! (Congratulations!) to all the graduating students!

For more photos, check out “Graduation Day” from the daily photo blog in Lund. The photographer has done an incredible job—well worth a look.

SHOW ME THE MONEY! Sweden’s social welfare system and families

When people talk about Sweden’s social welfare system, they often talk in terms of quantifiable statistics: the distribution of fathers and mothers on parental leave, infant mortality rates, and the number of entrepreneurs per capita, to name a few. It’s more difficult to trace the social welfare system’s effects on Swedish culture and families—effects that are just as important, but to which it is almost impossible to assign numbers and figures.

When I first came to Sweden, one of the most startling differences I saw between here and anywhere else I’ve lived—multiple regions in the United States, Italy, Austria—is the way that parents and children interact with each other as a family. It took me a while to understand why these differences exist, but I think they originate in large part with the far greater independence that young adults enjoy at an earlier age in Sweden than in most other parts of the world.

The biggest difference for me as a young adult and an American is that from what I’ve seen, the large majority of Swedish 20-somethings are completely financially independent from their parents. In the United States, young adults frequently have their finances interwoven with their parents’ to a much greater degree through, for example,  student loans, health insurance plans, and family cell phone contracts.

My Swedish family! (almost everyone)

It’s impossible to generalize about the behavior of parents and children in the United States versus in Sweden without stereotyping. It seems to me, however, that the safety net and the opportunities provided by the social welfare system makes a profound difference on how (in)dependent young adults are on their parents. Because young adults in Sweden have such a greater degree of economic freedom than in other parts of the world, a greater degree of self-agency at a younger age comes hand-in-hand.

Swedish parents seem just as willing as any others to help their kids out with money if they need to make a down payment on an apartment or buy a car, but barring large expenditures, young adults in Sweden don’t need their parents to underwrite the costs of their everyday lives. Because of this, the relationship seems to move beyond parenting into a more adult friendship mode at an earlier age than in other countries.

One giant difference is the cost of higher education. In the United States, parents often start saving for their child’s college tuition before the child is even born. In Sweden, it’s free to go to university, and full-time students get a monthly subsidy from the state to support them during their studies. They can also apply for a loan from the same governmental agency with lower interest rates than competing banks.

It’s also common for Swedes to take time off from studying for a couple of years after finishing gymnasium (something between high school and the first two years of college) and work or travel. This is the time when they’re expected to become adults, and once they’ve gotten a clearer idea of what they want to do, they’ll start studying at a university. Until their studies start, though, Swedes are relatively free to try things out, to travel, and to seek out life experiences rather than move quickly towards economic security.

There may be some Swedish families that are affected by the social welfare system less than others. Both photos CC from Flickr, esther1616 (l) and hellojenuine (r).

The strength of the health care system in Sweden also allows young adults to have incredible economic freedom from an early age. Having access to high quality, efficient health care that also happens to be provided at a low cost to the patient gives everyone in Sweden the luxury of not worrying. For young adults in the United States, the difference is even greater. Before you get the fancy full-time job with benefits included, your health insurance comes from your parents’ job and their willingness to include you as a dependent.

All this security comes at a cost, of course, and that’s where Sweden’s high tax rates come into play. Sweden’s social welfare system is a safety net sustained by the strong economy and the tax-paying population, and you’ll see a hefty chunk of your paycheck allocated to the system before it makes its way into your pocket. The tradeoff is that your contribution lets parents off the hook for taking care of their adult children and puts it on the government instead. In the end, I’ve got to say—they don’t do a half bad job. And then parents can just enjoy being parents.