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Tracing roots in Norrbotten

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It’s currently raining today in Stockholm and I’m holed up at home all day, but I wanted to share a few pictures I took while visiting the in-laws in Northern Sweden. My husband and I took my father-in-law to the tiny village (population less than 240) where he was born to see if we could find the house he grew up in.

Not only did we find it, its new owners let us in to look around and it was quite cool to find out that they kept the old coal stove too – mostly for decorative purposes.

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Tracing roots in Norrbotten

Tracing roots in Norrland - Photography by Lola Akinmade Åkerström Tracing roots in Norrland - Photography by Lola Akinmade Åkerström Tracing roots in Norrland - Photography by Lola Akinmade Åkerström

It’s currently raining today in Stockholm and I’m holed up at home all day, but I wanted to share a few pictures I took while visiting the in-laws in Northern Sweden. My husband and I took my father-in-law to the tiny village (population less than 240) where he was born to see if we could find the house he grew up in.

Not only did we find it, its new owners let us in to look around and it was quite cool to find out that they kept the old coal stove too – mostly for decorative purposes.

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Tracing roots in Norrbotten

Tracing roots in Norrland - Photography by Lola Akinmade Åkerström Tracing roots in Norrland - Photography by Lola Akinmade Åkerström Tracing roots in Norrland - Photography by Lola Akinmade Åkerström

It’s currently raining today in Stockholm and I’m holed up at home all day, but I wanted to share a few pictures I took while visiting the in-laws in Northern Sweden. My husband and I took my father-in-law to the tiny village (population less than 240) where he was born (in the 1920s) to see if we could find the house he grew up in.

Not only did we find it, its new owners let us in to look around and it was quite cool to find out that they kept the old coal stove too – mostly for decorative purposes.

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The most generous parental leave in the world?

If you type the phrase “parental leave Sweden” into Google, among the 320,000 results you may well find the word “generous” attached. Sometimes it even stretches to the phrase “one of the most generous in the world.” Sweden.se already has a nice simple explanation of how the system works which relieves me of a job. But on a quest to find out how good we really have it here, I continued to scour the internet for comparisons. Now I can’t wholeheartedly vouch for these examples – hey, I found them on the net – so here comes the liability waiver. If you know different, let us know!

- In Tunisia mothers receive 30 days off work, earning 67 percent of their salary. Fathers can claim one day of paternity leave if they work in the private sector. Public sector fathers fare better. Well, they get two days.
- Slovenian mums receive 12 months at full pay while dads are eligible for 11 days paternity leave.
- In South Africa, mothers can take up to four months off work and their salary is capped to 60 percent, depending on income. Fathers are given three days of paid leave.
- China keeps it simple. Ninety days for mums at 100 percent pay but no paid leave for fathers.

Before I give my verdict on whether Sweden truly lives up to its “most generous” label, I also found the following trivia worth sharing. (Insert liability waiver again).

- In Italy, full-time working mothers are entitled to two hours of rest every day for the first year back at work after giving birth.
. Maternity leave benefits in Singapore are not extended to women with their fifth child.
- In the Philippines, fathers are eligible to take seven days paternity leave but only if they are married.
- In Bulgaria, a grandparent can take the 12-month leave at 100 percent pay instead of either parent.

Sweden’s parental leave system has put the country on the map. Photo: imagebank.sweden.se

Now, Denmark and Norway are also often highly praised in the most generous parental leave league. In pure terms of the number of leave days (480) Sweden beats its Nordic neighbours. However, their approach is more straightforward and simple with fewer calculations needed. Indeed, Sweden’s complex process can give parents as much of a headache as a screaming child. Congrats to those who have survived the tangled web of weaved by the Swedish Social Insurance Agency (Forsäkringskassan) and come out the other side practically unscathed.

Making claim to the most generous title until very recently was Lithuania. The Baltic nation provided two years of parental leave with 90 percent of pay in the first year and  75 percent in the second year. Very generous. However, in 2010 lawmakers voted in favour to make cuts after the World Bank made worrying calls over their budget deficit. The legislation came into effect this month.

Now, parents who take one year of leave will get 100 percent of their pay. They can choose to take two years of parental leave but benefits are reduced to 70 percent in the first year and to 40 percent in the second year.

In conclusion then, does Sweden have the most generous parental leave system in the world? Yes, as far as I can tell, it does now!

Move over Ingvar, let’s here it for Björn

There’s a name synonymous with simple Swedish design who made it big from humble beginnings. Most people would cite Ingvar Kamprad with his global IKEA emporium and ask who is Björn Jakobsson?

Björn, along with his wife Lillemor, may not make the Forbes rich list but to parents around the world their products have proven priceless.  They are the founders of the Babybjörn company, which celebrates its 50th year in business in 2011.

The "stolen" 60s-style babysitter. Photo: Babybjörn

Parents attempting to juggle any small job while simultaneously pacifying their baby can testify the benefits of the babysitter seat, which was launched in 1961. And in order to fend off unwanted words of advice from passing strangers when my baby is unsettled in his stroller and I’m on the go, I just whip out my carrier and he is comforted. The original version called Close to Heart (Hjärtenära) came to market in 1973.

The 70s Svenssons. Photo: Babybjörn

Throughout the early development of their products, the Jakobssons pioneered ergonomic design, consulted with pediatricians and researched the importance of close physical contact between baby and parent. With their four children, they had a homemade focus group as a testing ground. And now they refer to their company as their fifth child.

Babybjörn remains a family business today, based in Stockholm, with Björn heading the company as CEO and Lillemor as creative director. Their products can be found in 50 countries worldwide and 95 percent of sales come from exports.

Yet, before we start comparing the Babybjörn series with that of other great Swedish inventions, such as the safety match and the pacemaker, there is a twist in the tale to be told.

In 2011, dad doesn't wear the trousers, he wears the Babybjörn. Photo Babybjörn

It all started on a trip Björn took to the US, where he stumbled across something he thought could be useful while he was babysitting his nephew.  He brought the bouncy seat back over the Atlantic, remodeled it and brought it to the European market.

Still, the Jakobsson’s half-century is worth paying homage to. Around 30 million babies have been comforted in their carriers. Mine is one of them. And without their babysitter, I wouldn’t be able to type this right now.

 

Far Away from Home

Being an international student can be hard sometimes. Whether your gone for six months, 1 year or two years, being away from your family and friends can more difficult than you imagined.

The feeling of homesickness is something most international students get. At some point everyone craves the more familiar like friends, food, pets or family. Sometimes it just feels like it all is so far away.

The holiday’s can make it even more difficult as you remember certain traditions you used to have, family gatherings and home cooked meals. It can also be hard to miss all of those traditions going on at home that you have grown up with for so many years.

The best way to deal with homesickness when you’re an international student in another country is to get out and meet some people. You can even do something that reminds you of home.

Carving the turkey! Photo:Andreas Bergman

This past Easter I took a trip to Sjövde to visit my Swedish family. Being around family, even if they are not your own, is a great way to kick that holiday homesickness. We may not totally speak each others languages, but we all enjoy it nonetheless. Just hanging out and relaxing with my second family makes me feel like I’m back at home.

This visit was especially nice because we tried out some Canadian holiday traditions. In our family, it is very typical for most holidays (Easter, Christmas and Thanksgiving) to get together and spend most of the day preparing a turkey and a big holiday feast. The get-together usually involves everyone in and around the kitchen enjoying food and wine, making jokes and having fun.

This year my Swedish family surprised me with a turkey and together we spent the afternoon in the kitchen preparing the turkey and all of the fixings!

A Swedish-Canadian inspired Easter feast! Photo:Andreas Bergman

If you are new to Sweden and don’t yet have any close family, friends, or family of friends there are always lots of chances to meet new people. Most universities have a buddy matching program for exchange students where they match you up with a Swede. Some schools also match you up with families in the region to enhance your ‘Swedish’ experience.

So if your feeling a little homesick, don’t worry, it happens to everyone. Try to take your mind off of it and hang out with some close friends, get our of your apartment and do something. The feeling doesn’t last forever and soon you will be back to normal!

SHOW ME THE MONEY! Sweden’s social welfare system and families

When people talk about Sweden’s social welfare system, they often talk in terms of quantifiable statistics: the distribution of fathers and mothers on parental leave, infant mortality rates, and the number of entrepreneurs per capita, to name a few. It’s more difficult to trace the social welfare system’s effects on Swedish culture and families—effects that are just as important, but to which it is almost impossible to assign numbers and figures.

When I first came to Sweden, one of the most startling differences I saw between here and anywhere else I’ve lived—multiple regions in the United States, Italy, Austria—is the way that parents and children interact with each other as a family. It took me a while to understand why these differences exist, but I think they originate in large part with the far greater independence that young adults enjoy at an earlier age in Sweden than in most other parts of the world.

The biggest difference for me as a young adult and an American is that from what I’ve seen, the large majority of Swedish 20-somethings are completely financially independent from their parents. In the United States, young adults frequently have their finances interwoven with their parents’ to a much greater degree through, for example,  student loans, health insurance plans, and family cell phone contracts.

My Swedish family! (almost everyone)

It’s impossible to generalize about the behavior of parents and children in the United States versus in Sweden without stereotyping. It seems to me, however, that the safety net and the opportunities provided by the social welfare system makes a profound difference on how (in)dependent young adults are on their parents. Because young adults in Sweden have such a greater degree of economic freedom than in other parts of the world, a greater degree of self-agency at a younger age comes hand-in-hand.

Swedish parents seem just as willing as any others to help their kids out with money if they need to make a down payment on an apartment or buy a car, but barring large expenditures, young adults in Sweden don’t need their parents to underwrite the costs of their everyday lives. Because of this, the relationship seems to move beyond parenting into a more adult friendship mode at an earlier age than in other countries.

One giant difference is the cost of higher education. In the United States, parents often start saving for their child’s college tuition before the child is even born. In Sweden, it’s free to go to university, and full-time students get a monthly subsidy from the state to support them during their studies. They can also apply for a loan from the same governmental agency with lower interest rates than competing banks.

It’s also common for Swedes to take time off from studying for a couple of years after finishing gymnasium (something between high school and the first two years of college) and work or travel. This is the time when they’re expected to become adults, and once they’ve gotten a clearer idea of what they want to do, they’ll start studying at a university. Until their studies start, though, Swedes are relatively free to try things out, to travel, and to seek out life experiences rather than move quickly towards economic security.

There may be some Swedish families that are affected by the social welfare system less than others. Both photos CC from Flickr, esther1616 (l) and hellojenuine (r).

The strength of the health care system in Sweden also allows young adults to have incredible economic freedom from an early age. Having access to high quality, efficient health care that also happens to be provided at a low cost to the patient gives everyone in Sweden the luxury of not worrying. For young adults in the United States, the difference is even greater. Before you get the fancy full-time job with benefits included, your health insurance comes from your parents’ job and their willingness to include you as a dependent.

All this security comes at a cost, of course, and that’s where Sweden’s high tax rates come into play. Sweden’s social welfare system is a safety net sustained by the strong economy and the tax-paying population, and you’ll see a hefty chunk of your paycheck allocated to the system before it makes its way into your pocket. The tradeoff is that your contribution lets parents off the hook for taking care of their adult children and puts it on the government instead. In the end, I’ve got to say—they don’t do a half bad job. And then parents can just enjoy being parents.

 

Royal flush

Haga PalaceHaga Palace, Victoria’s and Daniel’s future home. Photo: sivandsivand/Flickr

How does it work when Victoria, our crown princess, and her husband to be, Daniel Westling, refurbish their future home? In practice, I mean. If we disregard the at times heated public debate regarding the restricted access to the previously public space around Haga Palace, I can just imagine the heated royal debate about the ongoing refurbishment? What makes an interior royal enough to be fit for a future queen? Does Victoria have the final say?

There I am, having trouble deciding whether to choose an enamel or a plastic bathtub, or a toilet of brand X or brand Y for our revamped bathroom. Seems like quite trivial and meaningless decisions in comparison. Having given up my dreams of becoming a princess about 25 years ago, I’m pretty sure there will be no royal pee flowing through my toilet.

My husband and I moved into our house three years ago. Fantastic. The space. The garden. The sauna! But the projects never end. There are about a million decisions to be made all the time – color, tiles, furniture…

And even if Victoria and Daniel don’t have to worry about money, they still have to make a lot of decisions. Or don’t they? Maybe they have an interior designer working full time to make Haga Palace (where the king, Carl XVI Gustav, was actually born and spent his first few years) royal enough. I can’t imagine the royal couple driving around to Stockholm’s numerous DIY shops to pick out royal bathtubs and toilets. But who knows?

Don’t get the wrong impression from my ranting; I’m very pleased not to be royal. Do you know why? Whichever toilet I choose, it doesn’t have to be approved by the Swedish National Heritage Board. Victoria’s does.

BookshelfThe Heritage Board probably wouldn’t approve of hacking through the floor to build a bookshelf like we’ve done at home.

/Emma